Rule #1 to women whose friends are getting married:
Just because she was a bridesmaid in your wedding does not make her obligated to ask YOU to be a bridesmaid in hers.
Rule #2 to women whose friends are getting married:
If your friend, who was a bridesmaid in your wedding, asks you to fill a role in her wedding other than bridesmaid, you ARE NOT allowed to tell her how much it "hurts your feelings" that she didn't ask you to be a bridesmaid.
Seriously people. A woman doesn't get many opportunities in her life to play "Queen for a day," and have the world revolve around her. You were the bride in your wedding, and you got to have your way. Now you need to quit your whining and let THIS bride have her way, even if it means you don't get to be a bridesmaid.
It is not about you!
P.S. Being "honest" is not an acceptable excuse for being a rude b*tch. But I think that's a post for another day.